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Lessons from Yes! 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to be Persuasive

This is a book about social psychology applied to marketing, sales and general persuasion. It is an interesting read of what is essentially hundred of social studies and test complied into a laymen format with applicable real life examples.
I have complied my summary after reading the book. Do note that this is not in the order for the 50 chapters in the book. I have even grouped them under headings not found in the book for my own use.
- By saying many people are doing it
- By referencing people similar to the target audience
- Increasing social approval of an action
- Seeing a mirror or a set of eyes encourages self reflection and a stronger sense of sticking with the social norm
2) Reducing the options
- When customers are not clear about requirements
- People choose the middle product as a compromise
- Present at least 2 products
- Present the more expensive one first
3) Fear
- The more clearly people see behavioral means for ridding themselves of fear, the less they will need to resort to denial
4) Providing a memory aid at the decision making stage which you message is trying to affect
The reciprocity Principle
1) An ounce of personalize extra effort is worth a pound of persuasion
2) Three Major factors make a gift or favor more persuasive and more likely to be reciprocated
- Significance
- Unexpected
- Personalized
3) Initiate the reciprocity without expecting anything back
4) Favors change in value over time
- Recipients placed a lower value
- Doers place a higher value
How to get commitment
1) Get a small commitment before asking for successively bigger ones
2) Asking “Even a bit will help” increases the possibility of an action
3) People perform to expectations when labeled
4) Asking a simple question of volunteering
5) To increase the possibility of following through - Commitment should be voluntary, active and publicly declared to others
6) Active commitments- Written are more likely to be fulfilled
How to change people’s mind
- when presenting ideas that might be inconsistent with previous behavior,
- free them of their previous behavior by saying it was the correct decision at that time given the evidence and information
- Use the word “Because”
- Adding this in your conversation with a good following reasons increases willingness of the other person to help you
- Get the other party to say because to you because it reinforces their beliefs about you
How to get a positive perception
- asking someone who does not like you for a favor might help change their perception of you for the better
- See the virtue of others instead of their flaws
- get someone/something to introduce you and blow your trumpet
- promoting your weakness puts you in a better position of trust to sell your strength
- Promoting a weakness and then a related strength enhances the preference of your product
- Taking responsibility for your mistakes shows that you control over future events and the fix ready
Confluence
- Bring up similarities between you and the other person to increase the chances of that person agreeing to a request
- People like names that are similar sounding to their own
- Parroting a person’s word will make them feel more at ease and confident that you have understood them
- Names should be pronounceable and easy to remember
- Product Slogans that rhyme
- Asking for too many reasons of why a product is good might induce a negative perception because of the difficulty of coming up with the number of require reasons
Scarcity principle
- The more scarce, the more people are likely to horde it
- People – who knows or have it
- Things – Limited quantities
Perceptual Contrast
- The amount of information that a preceding message has affects the positive influence on the next message. The less information, the more influence the second message is.
- People will be more likely to complete task and programs if there is an indication that there is already some progress towards completion instead of no progress.
- in a competitive market, a lower starting price is better as it generates more attention and buy in from early bidders
Loss aversion principle
- Instead of pointing out what they stand to gain if they do A, point out what they stand to lose if they don’t do A
Names:
- Unexpected Descriptive, Ambiguous names create a sense of fascination and attraction with it compared with common and common descriptive names
Interpersonal Dynamics
- Team > one person’s thinking. Encourage input but make your own decisions
- a true devil advocate will increase confidence in the final position
- It is easier to reach an agreement with someone when there is background information on each other
Others
- learning from examples of past mistakes is more effective than just learning good practices
- Cultural differences affect the strength of messages
- Bundling will devalue the bundle product
- Instead of using the word free, state the value of the product
- “Receive $250 security program at no cost to you”
Physiology
- Emotional affect decision making.
- Avoid decision making when you are feeling down
- Take time out before making a decision
- Being distracted or tired makes you more susceptible to untrue persuasion
- Caffeine consumptions make you more easily persuaded with good arguments. Bad arguments have no effect.
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